Fear of Failure and How to Get Over It

Fear of Failure has to be the biggest thing holding people back from moving forward with their wedding business.

Nearly every day I receive an email from someone asking me how to get over that crippling fear of failure.

And I can tell you right now it plagues us all.

There’s no one way to deal with this and all of us are different so will respond to different things.

One thing I will tell you though is that without failing you can’t move forward.

I’ve lost count of the times I’ve made mistakes, done something wrong or simply screwed up.

But the key here is that I learnt from each and every mistake. I didn’t think of them as failings I thought of them as opportunities to grow.

If we don’t fail we stand still.

But what can you do to overcome it?

Good question. Now if I tell you then you have to promise not to judge me.

Do we have a deal?

Well even if we don’t I’m going to tell you in the hope it might help you.

If you’ve been around me for any length of time you’ll know that I LOVE musicals. Everything from The Sound of Music to Mamma Mia.

And when I have a crisis of confidence or fear of failure I turn to my musicals to pull me out of it.

There’s one in particular I want to share with you today that has a huge relevance to today’s topic.

And that’s another one of my all time favourites, Chitty Chitty Bang Bang.

There’s a song in that musical called ‘The Roses of Success’. If you’ve never listened to it then you should.

This song is on my ‘Pump Up Playlist’ on Spotify and it never fails to inspire me and make me believe that anything is possible.

Every bursted bubble has a glory!
Each abysmal failure makes a point!
Every glowing path that goes astray,
Shows you how to find a better way.
So every time you stumble never grumble.
Next time you’ll bumble even less!
For up from the ashes, up from the ashes, grow the roses of success!

How can those words not motivate you? From this wonderfully humble song from a children’s musical, you can take inspiration.

Embrace failure don’t be scared of it.

As the song says, “There’s magic in the wake of a fiasco! It gives you that chance to second guess!”

Look at it as an opportunity to improve and do better. Remember nothing is perfect straight out the box. Everything needs tweaking and tinkering.

I do understand what it’s like to start something new. In fact, just this week I launched a brand new product called WEDucate.

I had the biggest case of nerves and self-doubt just before I pushed the ‘go live’ button. But I played this fabulous song and let myself belt out the lyrics and remembered it was time to practice what I preached.

And instead of asking what’s the worst that can happen try flipping it on it’s head and asking what‘s the best that can happen? What if it takes off beyond my wildest dreams?

I’ll leave you with these final words from the song and please don’t judge me in the video below this post it was crying out for me to do it.

So when it gets distressing it’s a blessing! Onward and upward you must press!
Yes, Yes!
Till up from the ashes, up from the ashes grow the roses of success.