Last week I took some time away from my business and my normal every day life.
And I wanted to tell you why.
After over more than 20 years in business I’ve learnt that in order to have a healthy business you need to have a healthy CEO at the helm.
These last few months have affected us all differently.
We all know that 2020 has been a strain in more ways than I care to count. It’s a year that will go down in the history books. And it’s certainly not the year I thought it would be when I was happily saying goodbye to 2019 on New Year’s Eve.
However, it’s still a year like any other, just with a few more ups and downs and challenges to face.
Now I’m known for being a bit of a workaholic. I love my job. It’s that simple. But loving what you do isn’t enough to sustain you full time.
I’ve learnt to understand that despite what I’ve always thought, I’m not superwoman. I can’t do it all. Well not without it having serious repercussions.
And do you know what?
Two weeks ago I realised something. I was tired and not feeling inspired or creative the way I usually would be. This for me is the tell tale signs of fatigue and potential burnout.
Now in the past, I’ve ignored those signs. I thought I was invincible and that as long as I got enough sleep every night I’d be fine.
I was so wrong.
Everyone, no matter who you are, needs to switch off for a while, however hard that might be.
Stepping away from your wedding business and your life and allowing yourself to ‘just be’ is incredibly powerful.
Your business won’t collapse. Things will continue to operate without you. And the best bit, you’ll be ready to take on the world when you come back.
Of course, in the time of Covid 19 you can’t just hop online and book the first overseas holiday that takes your fancy.
I’m not in the business of being reckless with my life or other people’s so overseas travel was out the window.
But I needed a break. And as much as I love my home here in France with all the best will in the world I won’t stop working when I’m here.
For me to fully switch off I need to leave the house and get away from it all.
Now I’ll be the first to admit I’m lucky with where I live. France is a huge country with some amazing places to visit.
But if I wanted this to be a true R&R experience it needed to be somewhere peaceful. Somewhere I could just chill out, wind down and be me. And for me, my happy place is by the ocean.
So I looked up ocean getaways in France around 200kms from where I lived.
And I found the perfect place.
A little slice of paradise called L’Amelie near Soulac-sur-mer on the Atlantic coast.
This tiny little beach house on the sand dunes had uninterrupted views of the ocean.
It was just what I needed and more. I went to bed listening to the sound of the ocean. I could even see it from where I lay in bed.
Almost as soon as arrived I felt myself unwinding. As we watched the gorgeous sunset on that first evening my body almost gave a sigh of relief.
Until that point I’d still been questioning whether I should be this indulgent.
But really it isn’t indulgent. Everyone deserves to switch off. Everyone needs some downtime. It’s unhealthy for you and your business if you don’t.
I didn’t do anything particularly groundbreaking whilst I was there. I did a 10km walk on the beach every day, ate and drank what I wanted and had a two hour siesta each afternoon.
I even read three books. I’m now an absolute Kate Mosse addict and how she draws you into her world of Carcassonne.
All in all I’ve come back feeling refreshed, rejuvinated and raring to go again.
Now I realise not everyone can do what I just did and simply head off to the ocean for a week.
For some it’s a case of finances. For others it’s family, children or other obligations.
But for me, as I’m approaching my 50th year, I’m now in a position where my family is all grown up. My only responsibility is to my hubby and my dog, Lottie.
So I urge you, in whatever way you can, remember to take a break from your business and your life.
That might be as simple as going on a daily walk to a place that inspires you. It might be curling up and reading a book in the sun. Or it might be treating yourself to a long bath with a face pack.
Whatever it is do it. Give yourself permission to take some time out.
We all need it and it doesn’t have to cost the earth or involve going on holiday.
Remember what I said. A healthy Wedding CEO makes a healthy wedding business.
Your mindset in your business is so important. I’ve heard from so many wedding pros recently finding it hard to stay positive and motivated.
Even though it goes against what you might be feeling with a non-existent wedding season now is a good time to reset, recharge and refuel.
Get yourself ready for what we hope will be a bumper year in the wedding industry in 2021.
But more importantly, give yourself a break and allow your mind to get to a healthier place.
If you’re struggling and need some help come and join our Facebook Community, The Weding CEO Club. Every Wednesday I host ‘Cocktails with Kylie‘. It’s fun and we discuss anything and everything related to marketing your wedding business.